Is the father of my son in a new relationship?

My son’s father, from whom I separated three years ago, now has a new girlfriend. I made it perfectly clear to him from the moment he mentioned he was in a new relationship that my son was not to be part of it. In fact, I phrased it slightly more bluntly.

Why do I never let my new girlfriend meet my son?

I don’t want someone else picking my child up when he falls over, rubbing his knees better, or helping him dry his hair after his bath. In fact, the thought of anyone touching him in a maternal way is just too hideous to contemplate.

What did your son’s girlfriend do for You?

My sons’ girlfriends have been present at holiday meals, celebratory dinners, and spent more than one New Year’s Eve with us. They remember to text me on my birthday and offered me comfort when my father died, attending his funeral and Shiva. They have encouraged me with my writing career; my oldest son’s girlfriend even made me business cards.

Why are fathers afraid of their new girlfriend?

The things that to a dad might not mean that much, but to a mum are really important. ‘For men, the biggest fear is often of being completely replaced in their child’s life, but for women, fears are mostly centred around new partners doing the intimate little things — such as holding your youngster’s hand.

My son’s father, from whom I separated three years ago, now has a new girlfriend. I made it perfectly clear to him from the moment he mentioned he was in a new relationship that my son was not to be part of it. In fact, I phrased it slightly more bluntly.

I don’t want someone else picking my child up when he falls over, rubbing his knees better, or helping him dry his hair after his bath. In fact, the thought of anyone touching him in a maternal way is just too hideous to contemplate.

My sons’ girlfriends have been present at holiday meals, celebratory dinners, and spent more than one New Year’s Eve with us. They remember to text me on my birthday and offered me comfort when my father died, attending his funeral and Shiva. They have encouraged me with my writing career; my oldest son’s girlfriend even made me business cards.

The things that to a dad might not mean that much, but to a mum are really important. ‘For men, the biggest fear is often of being completely replaced in their child’s life, but for women, fears are mostly centred around new partners doing the intimate little things — such as holding your youngster’s hand.