What do you ask someone when they are upset?

The irony is that the depth of our exploration of our own thoughts and the thoughts of others often lingers on the surface of our potential understanding, when we focus too much on thinking and not enough on feeling. For example we ask questions like: “What were you thinking?” and… “Why did you do that?”

Why do I get upset when other people upset me?

Most of the things that you get upset about aren’t your issues. The driver who cut you off? Their driving is not your issue. All you need to worry about is getting safely to your destination. That lazy co-worker who isn’t doing their share of the work? Not your issue. All you need to do is focus on your own good work. Your cheating spouse?

What do people say when you don’t know someone?

So people may make comments like, “Your mother left you, so why do you care about her?” or, “You didn’t even know your uncle, why are you so sad he died?” Even those who are at least aware enough not to say hurtful things may still meet your loss with silence or indifference.

How to stop letting other people upset you?

1. Realize you cannot control other people. They are going to do the crazy, stupid, incorrect things they are going to do. You can’t force them to do anything else. You can’t force someone to stop being lazy or lying to you or cheating on you. The only person you can control is you.

What to say to someone who is upset?

While we can say to the upset person, “You don’t need to be alone right now,” they are likely better served by our presence. and the the expansion of feelings often repeated support new neural pathways.

What happens when you let other people upset you?

It could be anything from someone cutting you off in traffic to your spouse cheating on you. Mild to severe, other people’s actions can turn our world upside down. I recently let myself get all caught up in someone else’s drama. My boyfriend’s daughter was behaving in some ways I found unacceptable.

What’s the best way to console an upset friend?

Consoling an upset friend can be tricky. When you’re trying to offer comfort, you may feel like you’re constantly putting your foot in your mouth and making things worse. So, how do you console an upset friend, and actually make them feel better?

When do you know someone doesn’t care about you?

That’s a real friend. Unfortunately, one of the signs your friend doesn’t care about you is if they only reach out when they need help with something or to get something from you. Understandably, being friends with people comes with some degree of help and assistance.